- Sat Apr 15, 2017 6:23 am
@freyate I'm a teacher, so I will always think F's are a big deal but I know that they are not the worst thing that could happen. I dont flip out when my kids get an F but I take it seriously.
I can honestly say, I had some issues to work through from my past, so I wasnt always as accepting of lgbtq folk. In high school (I went to a school for juvinile delinquents, so its no surprise that everyone was rough with each other) I relentlessly bullied the gay kid. Of course, this was in the 90's, so it wasnt as accepted as it is now. Also, I had some misunderstanding about gay men due to trauma from my childhood, so I thought they were child rapists and when my transgender daughter (who identified as a boy still at the time) came out as gay, I was devastated and kind of angry. We didnt really get along for a while but she came crying to me and asked me why I hated her and if it would make me happy if she were to just disappear. It really broke my heart that she felt that way and I was very angry with myself for making my own flesh and blood so miserable. I educated myself. I realize now that what happened to me as a child doesnt mean that all homosexual men are like that. I am very understanding now, even with her gender identity. But even though the kid who came out to me yesterday, Gareth was only 3 when everything happened with Jaden, I think he was more observant than I realized and that he picked up on more than I thought and maybe thats why he was so nervous coming out to me, even if all these years since I have been okay with Jaden's orientation and identity. I will say that people my age tend to not understand these types of things. It just wasnt a thing when I was in school. There were gay kids but they were heavily targeted, so they stayed in the closet, so there was no transgenders or anything. I mean, they were there but you just didnt know because they never came out. My generation and up is slowly starting to learn about these things. Not to sound like an old fart but I wish millennials wouldnt jump at our throats if we say something offensive. I can guarantee that most of the time, the older person wasnt trying to be a jerk but that they are just very uneducated and not by choice.
Shamus/37/Irish/Male/10 (soon to be 11) bloodsuckers children
"Age dont matter like race dont matter like place dont matter like whats inside. Every fight comes from the fight within. I am the war inside."